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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mid 40s single mom here. So one of the things that I’ve found while dating is that men don’t like to wear protection. Most of them will, but don’t like it. For a variety of reasons, I prefer to use condoms (even if I’m on the pill). I can’t really relax otherwise. I keep hearing some variation of “we can just get tested” or “you have trust issues” or “what’s the big deal.” It makes me feel like I’m the only woman asking for this. Am I being crazy?[/quote]

OP, some men are hoping that you will get pregnant even while knowing that you are taking BC (and then they can credit themselves with having super-sperm) and some really do not care if they pass an STI to you.  Some men also consider BC a 'woman's job' and beneath their male concerns a la 'it's not my responsibility; it's the woman's'.

A partner who is able to respect himself also respects you and also cares about how you feel.  You and your partner, together, agree on what works for both individuals to be physically and emotionally comfortable together.

Skip the words, pay attention to the behaviors and then ask questions if the behaviors do not make sense to you, then trust your gut and bravely give yourself permission to stay or go on a situation by situation basis.[/quote]

Thank you this is such good advice - OP[/quote]

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