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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two elementary-aged sons. I love them. I am also done having kids.

There's part of me that feels sad that I will never experience having a daughter, with the closeness that entails: confidences, shopping, just a closer female relationship that I see all around me. In my experience, sons don't call their moms when they grow up as much, they're not as close, they gravitate to the wife's family (if they marry), etc.

I absolutely adore my children, but there's a pang of sadness I feel for what I will never have. Is this normal? Anyone else? How can I confront/get over/feel better about it??[/quote]

OP, my mom and her two friends have 3 girls. None of us daughters are super close to our moms and actually two of them have truly hostile relationships. I'm here, my family is in Europe and my brother and SIL are incredibly close to my parents and visit them all the time. My SIL hasn't talked to her mom in decades. I had a period in my early 20s when I didn't see mine in over 7 years and we spoke maybe twice a month briefly on the phone; we have very different personalities. I'm old now and I've seen so many complicated mother-daughter relationships and the shopping doesn't make up for all the distress. I've also seen a lot of difficult relationships between sisters, and the competition never stops - who's the thinnest, most successful, who gets the richest husband etc. 
There is a different type of closeness between sons and mothers and this is why there's always the MIL-DIL drama. The love that your boys have for you is truly unconditional and will never change. My dad adored his mom and cried his heart out when she passed away at 92. I know my H will be devastated when his mom will be gone. My brother will do anything for my mom. My boys are adults now and I'm still on the pedestal, despite the fact that I've done my share of parenting mistakes. Their poor dad got the short end of the stick. [/quote]

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