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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"YES! Agree completely. And do you think that your BF is a backwards, bizarre, 1950s, Donna Reed who is being entirely unfair to her husband??? I hope not - and I would think not, since you find her worthy to be a BF. And yes, I am like her in that I would resent being away from my DCs 40 hrs a week, but not like her in the exercise/maintenance =) "

No, of course I don't think my BF is bizarre. I think she found someone whose ideas of family life match hers very well. I'm pretty sure her husband is proud or something that she doesn't have to work, and didn't, even when he was unemployed for a long stretch.  They are both from well off families, both had moms who SAH and did the charity circuit.  She was the quintessential B student in school, reasonably smart but not driven.  I'm just an entirely different animal.

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You are an entirely different animal as in you are smarter and more driven, you mean?  Wow, you even threw your BF under the bus.  
Not all SAHMs do so because they lack smarts or ambition.  Please understand this.[/quote]

BF SAH because she is very traditional (think James Dobson, Bringing Up Boys, traditional) and because she is very financially secure with family money. She's smart but not at all driven. Do you understand that very driven women could well be unhappy SAH?[/quote]

But only reasonably smart....  Yes, I do.  As a SAHM, I struggle some days with the lack of intellectual stimulation and sense of gratification that comes from moving forward in a career.  I am the same Type A I was prior to kids, only I channel my energy into my job as a SAHM now.  In fact, I think that my Type A personality is part of why I insist on doing the child care myself and not leaving it anyone else.  And I don't see being a SAHM as the end of it all.  When all DCs are in school full time, I know I will take on new ventures.

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