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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a public school grad and happy to send my kid to a public or to a less competitive school with merit aid if she can get it. I don't think people who go to Ivies are automatically smarter or even better educated -- I've worked with many and it's just not the case.

However, this thread is FULL of people who are basically saying that middle class families should know their place. It's... gross. 90% of college threads on this site are about how important it is to go to an "elite" or name brand school, and now when people who can't afford those schools complain that they can't afford those schools, it's ":roll: why can't you be happy with a public school, not everyone has to go to Harvard?" I am happy with my own education and will be happy with wherever my DD goes, but I do find the attitude that people like us shouldn't aspire to going to these colleges pretty offensive. I would have done well at an Ivy -- I was a straight A student who loved school and had great study habits, and I later did very well at an "elite" law school. The fact that its was not possible for me to go without bankrupting my family is weird. It worked out fine, but it's weird to think that's an appropriate outcome.[/quote]

It’s not weird. It’s accepting that these schools aren’t meritocracies, taking on whatever kids could do well at whatever price their parents want to pay. I mean I could have been an excellent horseback rider, but it’s no great tragedy that I couldn’t afford it. Yes, competitive horseback is for rich people and that’s fine. There’s nothing important about being a horseback rider or ivy grad. It’s not a mark of raw superiority. [/quote]

But the competitive horseback riding people don't go around telling people that they are ruining their kids lives if they aren't getting them into horseback riding. That if they can't ride horses they should just give up and not do any kind of sport at all. That they should go into debt because the amazing experience of horseback riding is so, so worth it and if you can't to that you are some combination of a bad parent and/or irresponsible with money.[/quote]

Where does anyone say people who send their kids to state flagships are financially irresponsible and should not have had kids? [/quote]

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