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[quote=Anonymous]Did OP ever say what kind of job her DH works at (and their salaries?)

I know the Perfectly Egalitarian DCUM crowd will jump on me for this but it matters.

ON AVERAGE, women are given leeway to run to attend to kid matters that many dads just simply aren't given. Granted, my experience was over a decade ago, but I remember getting grief about leaving work, taking the fully allotted three weeks of paternity leave, etc., and it stuck (it didn't help that my wife's boss heavily hinted that if she didn't come back after six weeks, she'd be fired.)

Now if OP's gonna need to jump to it and fix childcare issues, [b]OP needs the car or they need to get a second car.[/b]

If he's a law partner making $600k a year and a client wants a meeting, client gets a meeting. He's paid enough to either have a SAHM wife (or one who can drop everything to handle these minor inconveniences) or throw money at all problems (second car, au pair, evening assistant/nanny, etc.)

But if he's a vanilla IC making $100-$150k a year married to another vanilla IC making similar money? Then yeah, DH needs to step up his game, and OP may need to execute a paradigm shift - that runs up to and including divorce.

If DH works for someone who likes to call random meetings, either DH needs to learn that "I can't make this 4:45pm meeting called with an hour's notice" or to look for a new job.

I get paid a fairly senior IC salary to manage a bunch of workstations and servers. Someone wants to meet me at 4:45 for an hour and nothing's actually broken? S/he can wait until tomorrow, or work can do without me the next day as I watch a movie mid-day Don Draper style. My wife is a SAHM now, but we live in an area DCUM looks down on. [/quote]

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