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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] … if your spouse forgot to pick up your child from aftercare?

[b]In this instance, there were two google calendar notifications, a verbal reminder the night before, and multiple phone calls and texts (that went unanswered) in the 2 hours leading up to pick up time?[/b][u]

And would your anger scale response change if this is something that happened 3-4 times per year?[/quote]

The problem is really with OP's approach.

If your spouse knows that you are going to get multiple calendar notifications, verbal reminders, phone calls and texts for him to do something, he knows he just does not need to be responsible. There are no negative consequences to him. Other than that you are pissed off.

I am a male. I did this with my wife and kids too - they wont learn responsibility. I used to bug my child to get ready for school. He is almost ready but the last little things like putting on shoes, he would defer until I tell him we are really getting late. I let him be late once, did not bug him. He was tardy that day. Wife was livid that I was so mean to our son. But he was never late again and now looks at the time himself and makes sure he is not late. I know most of you do this with your kids. But it is the same with a spouse too.

I would say just ease up on the reminders. Let him actually face the consequences. You should not have rushed to the daycare. You could have let it play out and your DH would have to take care of it. He would never ever do that again. Maybe once or twice but no more. You would be set for life. Otherwise you are on a path of lifelong frustration.

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Is this typical?  
My kids don’t care if they are tardy to school.  There are no consequences to them for being tardy other than getting a tardy slip.  This is in no way enough incentive for them to completely change their behavior.  And, really, if I typically tell them to get ready and didn’t one morning, they would blame the tardy on me, not themselves.

Maybe if I was to talk with them about getting ready for school being their responsibility, and I let them be tardy many times, they would change.  But the person who really suffers consequences for kids being frequently tardy is me, not them.  [/quote]

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