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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adoption is for children who need homes. Not for adults who want a child. Full stop. [/quote]

Sure, keep telling yourself that.[/quote]
I think it should be about finding parents for an infant, not babies for the parents[/quote]

But that is not what 99.99% of domestic infant adoptions are about.  It’s about finding infants and making them available to the parents who are able to pay for them and want them.  To make such babies available, a while industry with PR people and “counselors” are set on a marketing strategy to convince vulnerable young women, the vast majority of whom are in poverty, that the child would be better off with someone else.  They take young women who may come from trauma themselves, who may have little resources and no social safety net, and they offer temporary security and emotional sustenance.  Rent payments.  Health care.  Clothing.  Regular calls reassuring her that she is doing the right thing, that she is special, that she is strong, that she is showing the bravest love possible by giving up her baby.  And all do her natural instincts to want to mother her baby are selfish and foolish and immature.

There is no promise for housing for her and her baby.  There are few social supports.  Waiting lists for housing are years long.  Child care subsidies are nonexistent in some areas.  Instead of providing support and resources and guidance for those women, the adoption industry preys upon their vulnerabilities and convinces them that the desire to keep their baby is deeply wrong, and they paradise and reward the good, unselfish girl who hands over her baby, even allows the adoptees to be there for the birth.

And if after she gives birth, she needs more time with her baby, or she cannot let him go, the vultures descend with threats of legal action, financial claims, reminders of how crushed and hurt the hopeful adopters would be, and after all the help they’ve provided though the pregnancy, how could she who is not worthy of motherhood be so selfish?  So she lets them take the baby.  And then BOOM, is cut off.  No more help.  No more praise.  No more check ins and emotional sustenance.  Now she has an empty womb and a broken heart and no legal recourse to get her baby.  In some states, consent to relinquish can be given on the same day the women gives birth!  Most states require no counseling for mothers considering relinquishment, but those that do allow the counseling to be done by the agency placing the child for adoption…obviously not counseling in the best interests of the mother.  In some states, consent can be revoked for 10 days.  Some states like Kansas allow an agency to secure consent from the hospital bed just 12 hours after birth, and there is NO revocation period. The legal claim of the mother is irrevocably severed unless she can petition the court and offer proof that her consent was under duress.  Of course she would have to pay for her own legal counsels up against an agency’s army of lawyers to fight her.[/quote]

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