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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We get it, Sophia’s mommy. You’re mad that someone told you they hated your kid’s popular name.

My bet is that you also judge names you deem too creative pretty harshly, but you prefer to lecture everybody from your high horse about how judgmental it is to even THINK a name is super popular[/quote]

I think the people in this thread have been way to harsh on "popular" names, and my kid's name is ranked in the 100s and would not be considered too common or too popular by most anyone. I also don't really judge other people's baby names either way (as too popular or too unique). Like the PP, I sometimes have an instinctual reaction that I really like the name or that I really don't. But mostly I find name choices interesting, but rarely a source of judgment.

I've also been around long enough to learn that your instant reaction to a name never sticks if you get to know the kid it's assigned to. Or even if it's like a coworkers kid that you never meet, but hear about a lot. I've heard names that sounded jarring or weird at first and then rapidly became normalized the more I heard them as referring to a person. And even a very common name where I know multiple kids with that name, my mental image of each individual kid becomes so different that even when they share a name, I don't really think about the fact that they share it anymore.

I've also met lots of older kids who have both common and uncommon names and develop dissatisfaction with their names in adolescence. I think this is common and the assumption that only kids with common names get it is wrong. Adolescence is hard and kids are figuring out who they are, and importantly, if they like that person. My niece has a beautiful uncommon name that she currently loathes (she goes by a first initial), for instance. I don't think her parents were wrong to give it to her. I just think it's hard to be 13.

The truth is that I'm not a very judgmental person and I'm kind of horrified by how harsh and judgmental many of you are being over children's names. You seem mean.[/quote]

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