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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my ILs showed up hours early, or asked/insisted on showing up hours early even after I explained I needed time to prepare, I’d open the door and then leave them and DH to it. Oh, the sheets for your bed? They’re in the dryer—I needed extra time to get ready, but you insisted on coming earlier than we had agreed. So feel free to make up your bed with those sheets. Oh what’s for dinner? I don’t know—ask Kevin what he plans to cook for you.[/quote]

This is not normal behavior. Let the ILs watch TV with their son while you do whatever you have to do. Most people would be perfectly content to just do that. You are not royalty hosting foreign dignitaries with a strict agenda. Lighten up.[/quote]

What? Why is the grown man "watching TV" while his wife is getting ready for Christmas with HIS parents? Hard no.[/quote]

Weird op has never mentioned her husband helping. You would have to ask her why that’s not part of the solution in her old fashioned marriage. She needs time, not “we”.[/quote]

And OP also does not mention if there are children in her household, other than the DH - who apparently can't manage his own parents, nor can he assist with any prep details. If there are young kids, can't the presumably loving grandparents play Candyland or do puzzles with them? Go for a walk around the neighborhood to see lights and decorations with the children? If the children are older, why can't they be pressed into service making guest beds and vacuuming needles, making the dinner salad.

Or is this a situation of a Christmas Martyr Mom. With BOUNDARIES.[/quote]

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