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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are a lot of assumptions being made on this thread.   Laws regarding statutory rape vary from state to state.  14 is generally below the age of consent, regardless of the age of the other party.  There are Romeo and Juliet laws in some states, but not in others.  If the boy turned 18 during the relationship, that's another level all together.  [/quote]

Well that is a pretty stupid law. A 14 year old having sex with 17 year old is okay. They continue to have sex but one turns 18 and now is arrested and charged with rape? It’s either rape at the beginning or it is not. [/quote]

Statutory rape laws are not about protecting the girl, herself.  They're about protecting the parents' child and attacking the boyfriend.

This thread is strange, the way everyone is using statutory rape laws for a different purpose.

If statutory rape laws were about protecting minors, she could be charged too, in the states where the age of consent is 18.  [/quote]

Absolutely wrong: they are about protecting minors. [/quote]

What is strange is posters victim blaming children. The young man was close to legal adult age and past the age of consent in almost all states while the victim was not of legal age in any state.  He exploited his status as a popular senior with a car to force her into sexual relations she was not ready for. She is suffering a great deal.

Obviously she made bad choices, and the parents should have been more involved. But really not many parents would think they need to check to make sure that much older teens are not driving their daughters off campus every day to coerce them into an illegal sexual
relationship. 14 is too young to resist the pressure.

I am sure that many of us with younger teens will add this to our list of HS restrictions from
Now on. [/quote]

I have both sons and daughters. My youngest is a 14 year old girl with a boyfriend. I absolutely always know where she is and I absolutely check in to be sure they are where I think they are. I honestly don’t get how the parents don’t have at least some blame here.

And as much as 14 year old girls are not adults and not ready for adult decisions, neither are 17 year old boys. The level of vitriol that has been spouted about this boy is awful. He’s also a kid and she consented. Most  of us are aware that kids are not waiting until marriage or even adulthood to have sex so we are pounding consent into our boys’ heads. Seems like he absorbed the lesson. [/quote]

How does this read as consent in any context?
“She did not want to have sex, told him she didn’t want it, but he pressured her and coerced her. Told her he would break up with her if she didn’t. She reluctantly went through with it but hated it.”

The 17 year old boy acted as a predator. I say this with no vitriol but as a fact. [/quote]

She was free to go. She wanted to not break up so she consented to sex. She regretted it.[/quote]

Of course she regretted it. She never wanted to in the first place.

She is 14. A child, not possible for legal consent.

You sound like Betsy De Vos’ policy advisor for handling student sexual Assaults.
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:lol:  :lol:  :lol: [/quote]

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