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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would say that there are a lot of reasons why people can't get divorced.  The "just get divorced" trope is a bit ridiculous when there is very little that pushes a judge to not grant 50/50 custody if the other parent desires.  When you are in a miserable [b]marriage with someone who is addicted, depressed, verbally abusive, or whatever, it is hard to contemplate leaving your child with this person half of the time.[/b]

That being said, no it is not justified.  From personal experience, cheating takes away part of your soul.  You are left more empty after the "relationship" than before.

I understand why people cheat and don't judge but I can't justify it because it destroys everyone, including the cheater, no matter how poor a marriage is.
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It doesn't justify cheating though. If you cheat just know that's what you're doing and live with it. Stop trying to get the world to justify it for you. You've already justified it to yourself. There are ways to separate without divorcing as well. We are all responsible for our own decisions.[/quote]

I have been there.  This is the justification that many use - it is better to stay with a bad partner in order to protect the kids.  But, the reality is that the best way to help the kids is to divorce and insure that they have a healthy, safe, positive atmosphere at least 50% of the time.  In this way they can learn what normal is and can create a healthy life for the self.

If you stay with the abuser, the odds are high that the child grows up normalizing a lot of abusive behavior which then then replicate in future relationships. [/quote]

They need to do more studies on this. I'm curious if this is always or often true or not.[/quote]

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