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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have to echo everyone here who is saying this is a big red flag.  Not that he is unable to spend a lot on a ring, but that he isn’t recognizing the importance to you, or interested in finding an alternative less-expensive ring that signifies what you mean to him so it meets both of your feelings about engagement rings.   This right here is a HUGE indicator of what’s coming and don’t take it lightly.  It doesn’t matter what the issue is about.  He is pushing for something he wants yet refuses to do something that is important to you as part of it.  His way or the Highway.   Lots of big control issues here.

I know it’s incredibly tempting to feel like you’ve invested this much time, you shouldn’t consider moving on.  But 10 years from now you will be here lamenting that you didn’t take your instincts into more account, because you’re in a marriage you need to get out of.  Divorce costs, 50/50 kid custody and all.  And if you have to divorce, this guy will be pushing hard against child support and/or spousal support.   I didn’t get married until 35 and am incredibly glad I waited for the right man.  And if I hadn’t found him, I would be happier than needing to divorce someone like he is showing you he will be. [/quote]

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