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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There was another thread on this where someone did the math on childcare hours of little kids vs school age kids, and there are only about 10 fewer hours of childcare with older kids.   School aged kids sleep about 3 hours less a day than little kids (9-10 hours vs 12-13 hours), and so when kids go to school, you typically lose that time in the evening that you would normally have to yourself.  
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What are you talking about? My school age kids help with chores and entertain themselves before bed. I have more leisure time than ever. But we don’t sign up for travel sports so that helps. [/quote]

Well, my kids go to bed at 9pm now, and they wake up at 7am, needing to be at school by 8am.  They used to go to sleep at 7pm and wake up at 7am only needing to have their diaper changed.  
So, I go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 6am so that I’m ready to go by 7.  I used to have 3-4 hours every evening on my own, and now I really don’t.

It’s not that it’s hard, but I never really thought any of it was that hard.  It’s still childcare, though.  [/quote]

Yup. I found the baby/toddler phase a lot less work in a lot of ways, because kids are pliable and still sleep a lot at that age. I feel like babies are time consuming but generally quite easy, get progressively more challenging until about age 7 or 8, and then typically get easier from there but it is highly kid-dependent. I certainly know plenty of kids where the really hard work of parenting didn't even start getting tough until they were in elementary school due to special academic needs that arose or social issues. So a 10 yo or 14 yo could, in my opinion, easily require more effort and energy than a baby, and potentially even more time. What parent does not sometimes think fondly back to that first year and three naps a day and a bedtime that consisted of nothing but a bottle and a diaper change? Babies aren't "easy" but they are exceedingly simple. School age kids are rarely simple.[/quote]

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