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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The summary is completely wrong and makes a lot go assumptions, but that’s unsurprising. I’ve lived in NYC for a long time, and stated zero inaccuracies about the housing complexities my brother is facing.

You think you’re smart. Well, no. It’s not ok for SIL - a 45 year old woman, not naive - to lead her MIL to believe she had been married, that she’s eager to get pregnant despite knowing she can’t leave her 1 bedroom nor legally have another adult and a potential newborn there, and to tell her fiancé they’d marry this past spring, and then blow past that date because she can’t marry and live as an actual family. You may like people who lie to your mothers and spin shit to your brother. I don’t.

Its not going to work out, and that’s just fine. [/quote]

What did she say to your mom that led your mom to conclude that she'd been married?[/quote]

She made a “joke” about deserving “more alimony” from her ex. So she did not directly claim a former marriage, but said that.

PP, we’re not from different cultures. I’m not a princess. I’d love my brother to have a child, and to get to have a family. There are a ton of red flags and brother was something of a serial monogamist, where we anticipated he’d marry well before this age. He doesn’t earn a salary to solely take on an apartment big enough for all, especially if she does get pregnant, which is certainly possible, without her contribution. She doesn’t only wish to retain her home, which I have never said is de facto unreasonable. It is, however, incompatible with cohabiting with a spouse and potentially bringing in another child to a 1-bed where she is the only adult on a recently renewed and very long-term lease. It’s not begrudging anyone anything to say that.[/quote]

So basically, you think SHE should give up her invaluable lease to support your brother, who cannot afford a two-bedroom apartment on his own.  Is that right?  Why is SHE the one who needs to give up substantial financial security, and not your brother?  In one of your previous posts (perhaps deleted) you said that the solution they worked out was for your brother to rent a market-rate apartment in her building.  That actually sounds like an ideal, very fair solution.  Not sure why this outrages you so much? [/quote]

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