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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone saying it’s too expensive- maybe, but shouldn’t OP let her sister decide that for herself?[/quote]

OP here,

I think the only person bringing up expenses is me.  I said that ski school was too expensive for my kids, which is why one of the reasons waited for them to be old enough to ski as a family, and then waited another couple years due to medical issues and a pandemic.  I also said this is probably the only time we'll be able to do this during my kid's childhood, and that if I could afford a trip every year, it might not bother me as much if I didn't get the experience I planned.

I'm not sure why my sister should decide for herself whether I can afford more ski vacations or ski school for my kids.

Having said that, I think that DCUM often tends to assume that other people have "moderate" incomes by DCUM's unusual standards, and so they present solutions that cost a lot of money.  I don't really see how saying to someone "Sure, you can come on the trip, but we expect you to do all these things that probably feel unsafe (e.g. using resort childcare for an unvaccinated baby), or are cost prohibitive (e.g. renting an entire extra house) or aren't in line with how you parent (e.g. weaning so you can leave the baby in Maryland with Dad), or are going to hurt your kids (e.g. explaining to your kids they can't ski with their cousins)" is less hurtful than saying "we're planning on doing something thats for older kids and adults, we'll see you when we get back!".

I understand why people think that the first thing, going with 3 of us and leaving one behind, is hurtful, and I'm probably not going to do it.  But I don't understand why people think the second thing, setting so many restrictions that she decides not to come, isn't equally hurtful.  [/quote]

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