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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]oh please. the kids and their therapists know EXACTLY who filed for divorce and why.

stop protecting abusers, cheaters, addicts,  A-holes by sugarcoating why you had no choice but to divorce him. [/quote]

Even if children know in these situations, it is damaging for the child to have their business spread all over town. Children have to go to school and have their peers clue them into the parent gossip and then the CHILDREN become the parent gossip. There is no benefit to anyone to air out your dirty laundry post divorce. IMO the people who do this so everyone know who's 'fault' it was are the truly selfish people. Divorcing doesn't bother me as someone who lived in a house with two people who SHOULD have gotten divorced and is now even as an adult hypersensitive to unspoken tension in a room as a result of years walking around on eggshells between the adults I lived with. But talking about it all over town and making your kids deal with the gossip? That is selfish and low and crappy.[/quote]

Selfish is prioritizing making sure that people don't judge *you* over your kids' privacy and dignity.  You can privately tell the (very few) people who genuinely might need to know, and who can be trusted to be discreet, but you don't have to air your dirty laundry all over town just to make sure that people know you're blameless.  [/quote]

+1 Amen.[/quote]

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