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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, but a newborn baby and a toddler when you're not doing anything else is just not that hard. It just is not. I realty don't care if you wildly disagree, for most people, it is not a big deal.[/quote]

How obtuse. I don’t think staying calm when you’re surrounded by screaming children is hard. My husband doesn’t think doing complicated things in excel is hard. Some people don’t think differential calculus or writing a thesis is hard. Just because something isn’t hard for you doesn’t mean its not hard for everybody. You can’t just disagree that something is hard for somebody else.

And for the vast majority of people, caring for a 3-year old and a newborn for a weekend when you’re alone is hard. For me it would be massively difficult because my 3-year old was inconsolably jealous when I had my second.

If it isn’t for you, that’s fine, but learn to accept the fact that everybody is different. [/quote]

No.

I would say for the vast majority of people caring for an infant and  3 yo is NOT hard but who cares if it’s hard for OP. If she can’t care for her own child for 3 days alone she just needs to communicate that to her H and  that’s the situation he is living with.[/quote]

[b]This. It’s only hard because we act like omg! Jealous toddlers! Not sleeping 8 hours straight! Mommy life amiright! But no. It’s not that hard[/b]. [/quote]

Wow. I think you guys aren’t expecting enough of life if you don’t think of being sleep deprived for months on end while also attending to the needs of a toddler isn’t hard. Do you know about the research on the impact of sleep deprivation on our ability to function, and on our emotional health?  (And, less important because it’s only three days but still important, the research on helping older siblings who feel threatened by a newborn?) Raising kids, raising them well anyway, takes a lot of effort even when you’re not sleep deprived. Of course you can do it alone, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t difficult. The motivational phrase is “we can do hard things” not “life isn’t hard, stop complaining.” [/quote]

It’s definitely a “how you frame it” situation. Is it hard? You might say it’s hard? I might say it’s not hard? And we might be doing the exact same thing.

Some think cooking is hard but I fing because I love it. I might say shopping fir clothes is hard because I hate it.

But being home with a infant and 3 year old, which I did was not a time in my life I felt… wow this is hard.

Maybe the teen years were hard for me and a breeze for you.

It’s not that it was hard for everybody and “we do hard thing” it was hard for some and not for others.

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You are irredeemably stupid, PP.  Newsflash - kids and babies are all DIFFERENT!!!  My first baby had colic that was the stuff of nightmares.  It was really, really effing hard even with BOTH of us on deck with just ONE kid.  There was nothing physically wrong with him but he did.not.stop.screaming unless he was being held - while being walked - outside.  For six months.

It was a nightmare, quite frankly.[/quote]

Sorry meant this in response to bolded.[/quote]

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