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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But you made the decision to make a child with him less than 3 years ago? Clearly you liked him and respected him then. How did you do a 180 on him in such a short period
Of
Time?[/quote]

PP here. That is irrelevant now. 
(And by the way—50% of pregnancies are unplanned…even with birth control. I hate when people say this. Hate it. Not everyone “chooses” to have a child; many times where is an unplanned pregnancy and it makes people stay…do not assume everyone “chooses” to have a kid. It is irrelevant at this point anyway. Also: no one knows how people will parent so planning a kid is not relevant. If a marriage will never be good, there is no sense in prolonging the inevitable. (I my case, I was planning a divorce before a kid…he coerced it and I got trapped for YEARS with this freaking attitude…you have no idea if she liked or respected him before. You have no idea if the child was planned. You have no idea if the was trying to
“Save” the marriage with a kid. Stop making assumptions. Stop bringing up the past. None of it is relevant. What is relevant is she feels her marriage was a mistake and he is not who she thought he was and she does not feel they face shared goals to last a lifetime. That is what matters. Nothing else.[/quote]

You should stop projecting and telling everyone to divorce, especially people with kids. They should at least try for the sake of their kids. Nothing working with couples or individual therapy ti understand what is going on here.[/quote]

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