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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just checking in on you, OP. Did things ever come together again? Is he cut off completely from you now?[/quote]

We were talking all of January and saw each other once. Then we did not talk for three weeks. Then we talked again for three weeks straight from late Feb to mid-March (like every day, video calls, texts all day like when we were dating). We made plans to see each other in mid-March. But then right before, he cancelled the meetup. There was a very long two-hour video call about this. He told me he is going to try the arranged marriage thing. (But then he also said he would not have kids right away to make sure it was working and he said that if this does not work, his family can't pressure him ever again...which I thought was bizarre...it is like he is doing this to placate them and it is not truly what he wants...even if he does not want me anymore, it really does not seem like he really wants to have a setup of a marriage either but he just can't handle their pressure...that is my take at least).

He texted two weeks later and I asked a question; I responded, but then I never heard from him again. At this point, we have had no contact for about 2.5 months.
I am not dating now. I’m not over it totally. What is upsetting to me is that he had no business at all dating any American. I literally brought this up on several first dates very directly because I feared this could happen and he assured me family pressure was over and he did not want that traditional setup. Well, apparently, him telling them about me put their pressure into high gear and he can’t buck it. I wish he really understood what was going on when I brought this up early…because I did not want to be in this situation and wanted him to be sure someone like me truly was no longer an issue…that did not turn out to be the case.

I removed him from my phone. Lesson learned: trust my instincts when I feel like a problem might arise despite what people say. He could have gone down this path years ago. I thought it had been decided…but I guess not.
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