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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question - why have kids if you don't really want anything to do with them?

If you want to be hands-off and continue working 80 hour weeks, just stay a bachelor and become an awesome uncle.

It's not okay to bring children into this world if you're not totally invested in it. And I don't mean financially - children would rather have an involved parent than college tuition or a car. 
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OP here. I want kids and will be involved. I’m not much of a baby person, and I don’t think many men are. I want to work as much as I can and have my family set for life so when they get schools aged, I’m able to be more invested in their life. [/quote]

Not being “a baby person” doesn’t get you off the hook. The whole idea that you want to basically ignore your kids until they’re more fun is insane. You have to be an equal partner when they’re young - that’s when it’s most important.

Sorry, but career vs family is a choice we all have to make. You don’t get both. I have big dreams too but they would mean neglecting my family.

Your attitude is completely wrong. It’s not “put my kids on the back burner until my career is in a certain place”.  It’s “put my career on the back burner until my kids are in a certain place”.

If you can’t cut down to reasonable hours, don’t have kids. It’s not fair to them. Children shouldn’t exist solely for your entertainment when you feel like it. [/quote]

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