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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really need to see an individual therapist.[/quote]

I agree that yes I need to see an individual therapist as well. But my husband isn't completely innocent either we can't ignore the fact that he is allowing his mom to leave me out of family things continuously. Couples counseling will help him learn that in a marriage your wife comes first and how to set boundaries with his mom when it comes to her excluding me. Also it will help him learn how to stand up to his mom when it comes to excluding me. [/quote]

Or stand up to you so you learn to have normal boundaries with people and allow them some frickin' space in their own adult lives.

Does your finger get tired with all the pointing you do?[/quote]

Hey I did acknowledge I need individual therapy as well. But you truly don't see where my husband has any fault. You really think it's ok to be at mom's beck and call and to allow her to have a planned scheduled family dinner that happens almost every Friday where I'm purposely excluded. You really think I should go along with that and that it's healthy for my husband to continue to allow it?

Just because I may be wrong in some areas doesnt mean he is automatically right in every area. I can guarantee that if a poster posted on here being the MIL in this case and said hey I want to plan a scheduled family dinner every other Friday with my son and daughter I don't want him to bring his wife how do I go about making sure that happens the responses wouldn't be well that's an acceptable request. It's ok to exclude his wife she isnt really family anyways. It would be you can't exclude his wife they are married she is part of the family.[/quote]

I hope for your sake that you do go into therapy to figure out how in the hell you have positioned yourself as the daughter in law who truly believes her husband isn't allowed to communicate privately with his own mother, and going to the mats with this belief, and then honestly wondering why she wants to have planned events where you aren't allowed. I mean, this isn't rocket science. [/quote]

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