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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are numerous issues here.
You started off complaining that your husband leaves the room when he speaks to his parents.
You then morphed into the fact that MIL wants to have dinner with just husband and SIL.
Now you're all over how you and MIL should be besties and going to spa days together and love each other like family, just because you and your husband happened to get married.

You have wildly unrealistic expectations. You hit the jackpot if your inlaws love you like their own, but that's just not a given. You seem to think it's just a given that you'll be seen like family and loved like family. It's just not and you're setting yourself up for massive disappointment every time you say that's what "should" happen.

All of these issues got brought up because this post evolved. It is a combination of things that are upsetting my husband feeling the need to keep convos private with his mom. Then its being excluded from a practically weekly dinner and my husband allowing me as his wife to be excluded. Don't you see at all how this would be upsetting for me and how this isn't normal behavior?

No most MILs don't insist on having a scheduled dinner where her son's wife is excluded. Yes maybe expecting her to hangout one on one was a bit much I will say that but planning whole family dinners and purposely excluding one's spouse is pretty damn rude. Maybe that's why I'm being a little pushy here because I am being excluded. No they won't love md exactly like their own child. But c'mon we been together 15 years that's a really long time plenty of time to get used to me and comfortable with me to learn to love me even if it's not like their own child love me as a member of the family. You seem to assume his parents know I'm upset about him going into another room to take the phone calls unless he tells them they don't know.
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