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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=soexcited123]But why do you guys feel weird about talking to your family in front of your own spouse? Again it's about being transparent in a relationship. If my husband told his family things he couldn't tell me that would be [b]odd[/b]. To address the answer some people gave such as the other party not beinf aware other people can hear if someone is married I assume they are probably in the same room so I act accordingly. Not to mention if im married [b]we are all family why would my in laws tells my husband something and expect him not to tell me?[/b] A little odd. When my dad's mom called growing up he never left the room because there weren't secrets and my mom spoke to her mil also. Shouldn't the husband be including his wife in his conversations with his mom after all its her family now too.
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It would not be odd, it would be completely normal.  You sound really merged with your husband in an unhealthy way.  Please remind yourself that he is and will forever remain a physically and mentally separate person from you.

No you are not all family.  Your husband is certainly family to his parents in a way that you aren't.  Accept it.  He is also not family to your parents in a way that you are.

No, the husband should not be including his wife in his conversations with his mom.  He can if he wants to, in conversations of his choosing.  Again, he has and will always have a separate relationship with his mother, to which you are not a party. [/quote]

But like what would they talk about that is so secret he couldn't tell his own wife? I have yet to see specific examples. If he is telling his mom about HIS personal issues and not telling me that's a boundary issue and a comminication issue like why would he tell her over me. If anything his issues effect me a lot more since he lives with me im with him everyday and we are married. Yes legally in laws do become family once married. [/quote]

NP here. Are you kidding me with this? His own mother isn't allowed to have, let's see, a conversation around her own personal finances, her personal medical issues, issues SHE's having with other people in her life, her job, etc. NONE of that is any of your business. NONE. You a certifiable whack job or a narcissist who thinks the world revolves around her. Holy crap, that was enlightening, and completely scary, that someone's mind works this way.[/quote]

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