Reply to “Full time mom”

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "“Full time mom”"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So when the kids are in K, is the teacher parenting them?  Is mom relegated to part time?  Is there any such thing as a full-time dad?

Inquiring minds are waiting...[/quote]

The bulk of brain development is done by about the age of 3 and all the foundational skills (walking, talking etc) are in place by around the same age. In those early years, every interaction is formative. How you respond, react, interact, talk. By the time of K - the basics are developed enough that the interactions are less important. In the early years is when attachment forms - again based on the response and interactions the infant and toddler has throughout the day. How someone responds when they cry or when they are hurt or scared or express any emotion. Within a few years of life all those patterns are already in place. Initially they are completely dependent so they need all actions done for them, by 5 they are pretty much doing everything on their own.

What a child needs at 3 months or 12 months is very different from that they need at 4 years or 5 years. What a K teacher can provide is appropriate for a 5 year old, it is not appropriate for an 18 month old...hence why 18 month olds don't go to K.

I am not of the camp that it needs to be a parent there the first few years but the infant / toddler does need an engaged, caring, responsive caregiver who can do the in loco parentis role if the parent is not there. They need to be held and fed and changed and communicated with. They need to be loved and responded to and cared for and engaged. They need these things 24 hours initially - slowly decreasing as they age until by K, they have sufficient development that they can be in a large group setting with a school teacher as they no longer need most of those things to sustain life, form foundations or establish attachment.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics