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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP.

PP can you please explain your reasoning for being angry re it’s more expensive to educate some children than others?  Asking honestly.  I have always viewed this issue similar to health insurance.  Do I feel angry that my coworkers wife has breast cancer and therefore consumes FAR more healthcare than my family?  No.  Can you explain how educating children is different?  TIA!

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Family friends in FCPS who have a disruptive child, severe ADHD, have spent many hours and funds on therapy yet he still hits other students and recently the teacher. He's always had issues since he was a toddler and was kicked out of preschools. I feel so bad for the family (other kids are fine)! I think he needed early intervention services but his needs were not identified as he was home with a nanny until 4 and perhaps parents were in denial thinking he would grow out of it.

He had an IEP, lots of FCPS counseling services, many warnings and suspensions, but he is now headed for a special needs school for emotionally disturbed students. Parents are devasted.[/quote]

But why are they devastated?   It's probably going to be a much better environment for their kid.  I've seen that kid in a public school.  It's really hard for them.  No kids want to eat lunch with them, play with them, or be their partner.  And that certainly doesn't help with their behavior.  I know no one wants the label of "emotionally disturbed" but FCPS was clearly not a good environment either [/quote]

I'm not the friend of this family, but, is it hard to imagine why this would be devastating? The kid is being sent to an inferior school, where he will receiving little to nothing in the way of an actual education, will have to travel a long distance from home every day, won't make any friends, and will lose ties to the local community. If / when he's able to return to a regular school he won't know anyone, will be far behind other kids in his grade and will have to work so much harder just to catch up. And in FCPS they know that when their kid misbehaves in one of these schools he will be locked in a closet as punishment. Depending on how long he's stuck in one of these schools, throw away any hope of the kid going to college -- the high schools don't offer the necessary classes (like foreign language) that you need to get into any decent schools. The parents are coming to grips with the fact that the school has given up on their kid. And even if they had the resources to go private, nobody wants to take a kid with behavioral issues. The family knows that things are not working in the current school, and does not want their kid to be disruptive or god forbid hurt anyone -- but that doesn't make it any easier to know that without a proper education the kid has no hope of having a decent future. [/quote]

DP here.  Religious schools are always an option.[/quote]

Home schooling is always an option too.[/quote]

What part of EVERY child is entitled to an education do you not understand?[/quote]

Oh we know. We just think it’s BS that your kid’s education can cost the county $50k while every other kid gets the shaft.[/quote]

Not to worry, if your child acts like that they may get the privilege of a $50K a year school too.  Really, be grateful that your child doesn't have mental health, cognitive or any other issues that cause him or her to behave that way.  Its easy to criticize, its harder to actually help.[/quote]

Here is the confusion. My responsibility is to my children not yours. You are certainly not wasting any mental space thinking about how your child affects mine. It’s all about getting your entitlements and consequences to others be damned.[/quote][/quote]

Many parents spend a fortune privately on therapists, mental heath treatment and more and because science is not exact and schools fail the kids, what more can some do?[/quote]

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