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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He would say lack of sex; I would say his anger and hostility... which make me not want to have sex with him.[/quote]

Isn't it flabbergasting that he can't figure out hy you don't want to have sex with him????!!!!

I get zero help around the house and my h wonders why I won;t be his sex doll.[/quote]

+1000. His issue is lack of sex

My issue is you do nothing, zero.[/quote]

Surely not a popular opinion on DCUM but I should make enough for you to SAHM, have someone clean the house, spend the morning in Starbucks, and then go to yoga and then you can birch at me that I don’t help.

The biggest issue is that men pursue women so the expect to be spoiled. I often wonder where my DW, from a working class family, came from. Where’s my Lexus LX, vacations to Nantucket, closet full of Lily and her and her friends look aghast that one of them might have to work. And for this I get disdain and starfish sex ? I realize now you should play catch and release with women. [/quote]

This is not even remotely the norm, you are aware? Most wives work these days. Most SAHMs don’t expect such a lifestyle either. You are talking about a very tiny minority of women in America- your family lifestyle is not the norm at all and does not apply to most of the people in this board.

My advice? Move to a different neighborhood- different peer group, different values. Less stress.

Thst said, if your wife is as materialistic as you say- you probably are too. If you are you need to own that as well- I’m guessing you don’t want to downgrade your lifestyle either, and it isn’t completely “my wife wants all of this, not me! I’d be happy being working class if not for HER”. She didn’t create this lifestyle herself- you are married and have gone along with all of it. If you are unhappy about it- talk to your wife and change it.

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Yes. My SAHM wife grew up upper middle class and went to elite schools.  She takes children to gymnastics and buys me mugs on sale at Target and we drive Hyundais.  Most of her friends work (albeit part time or non intense jobs) and she will again too when the kids are older.  We went to Deep Creek Lake last year and spent $2k because that's what we needed to do to max the 401(k).

She likes being with the little ones now and they love the time with her.  I work reasonably hard but work in the suburbs and am usually home by dinner.  I am exempt from the laundry wars because DW took that as her territory.  (I wash dishes, cook, outdoor stuff).  We both have reasonable amounts of free time given that we have three children six and under.

Your post is like reason 1,000 that I am happy I quit biglaw.
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