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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^See the thing is that you alone have made the decision that this is the best path forward.  If you know that your wife wouldn’t like the path you’re taking then you’re just hiding your actions.  It’s justification to make you feel good.  Your wife has the right to make her own decisions.  You’re in a modern marriage where both parties get to make decisions.  It’s no longer 1950’s and the Father Knows Best scenario.  Give her the options to make her own decisions.  [/quote]

Stop pretending that his wife doesn't already know. There is no deception going on here. She absolutely 100% knows that she has zero sex drive and they have not had sex in many weeks. She HAS made her decision: she wants to stay married (otherwise she'd divorce him) and she wants no sex (otherwise the would be having it together and he would not have an AP). We reject your attempt to recast this as some big secret where he's keeping important information from her or limiting her decisions. Nope![/quote]

Uh no.  You may assume that is the case but I don’t.  Unless there’s an explicit discussion, there’s no consent.

I mean if you believe there’s already consent, why not have it out in the open and discuss it?  It seems like you believe that she’ll agree to open marriage anyway.

Either there’s consent on your wife’s part to open relationship or that you’ve taken away her right to make a decision for herself.  She has the right to make decisions for herself.  [/quote]

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