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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would give her a helping hand, and also try to help her with therapy, career counseling, and part time work. These will all give structure to her life and help ward off depression.[/quote]

This is the right answer. It's also -- and forgive me, I don't mean this to be rude -- the easy one. OF COURSE you offer support and help to an adult son or daughter who is willing to try. That's straightforward. What people need help with is what you do when they refuse to engage any of this, and just want a roof and food from you.

It's nice to think they will accept help in the spirit given and run with it. That's great when it happens. The hard questions come when you figure out where to draw the line, and if you expect that is the direction things or going, do you have that conversation at the beginning? Does the current wife or husband of the parent have to stay in the house if this stretches out indefinitely? What if they are being verbally abused by the adult son or daughter? Physically abused? What if there is drug use or dealing? What if other family members are at risk -- other kids in the house, or if the son or daughter is stealing from an elderly family member?

That happens, too. People don't write in for help about easy situations, generally. It's usually when there is some reason to call it a hard situation.

[quote] It is troubling that she has never had a job, but if she makes some good moves now, she will be better off and be able to launch.  [/quote]

Well, yes. But.[/quote]

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