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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not particularly a feminist, so that's not why I kept my name when I got married. I am who I am, and it seemed weird to me to change my name part way through my life because of a tradition that I didn't find persuasive. When my kids were born, I was totally fine giving them my husband'a last name. [b]I have not for one minute felt my connection to them or to my husband diminished because I don't share their last name. [/b]And it has not once been an issue logistically or caused any confusion as to our being a family. It's just not a big deal. Heck, it's not even a small deal.[/quote]

Ok, but ask yourself what the point of surnames are for. [b]It's to signify family[/b]. With your attitude surnames become as meaningless as first names, and there is no reason at all for anyone in a family to share a surname with any other family member. Is that the solution? To get rid of identifying family relationships altogether?  Should surnames simply be a a way of indicating an individuals identity, without having any tie to a person's family background? [/quote]
DP here. You're right, the custom surnames was originally meant to signify family (back when women and children were considered the property of men). Modern people have discovered that you don't need a calling card to be a family. You can be a family just by loving each other.[/quote]

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