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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got divorced 20 years ago after 25 years married.  I'll tell you what it's like, it's great.  My husband wasn't all that bad but I knew it was time for a divorce.  I did wait until my kids were both out of high school so I did not experience, or force them to experience, the trauma of divorce with young kids.  Good luck OP.[/quote]

The trauma is worse for teens and college students[/quote]

I can understand teens, but college students? Come on. You're an adult, you have sexual and relationship experience, you should be able to "get" why these things happen. Also, you're out of the house, so it's not affecting your daily life like it does for kids still living at home (e.g., now going back and forth between two houses).[/quote]

Are you kidding me?  You actually expect a 20/ 21 year old college student to "get" why his/ her family crumbled after all these years? You equate his/ her little relationship experience with understanding the complicated emotional messes of people of his/ her parents' generation?

No way.

And yes, it may not affect you deeply every single day like it would have if you were still living at home, but believe me, the emotional impact of the devastation of the home you thought you had, behind you and supporting you, not being there, can be just as catastrophic. And I don't use that word lightly.[/quote]

+1000[/quote]

I am the PP of this comment above.  My divorce did not traumatize my 18 yr old or my 23 yr old who was married himself by then.  Probably because my ex and I didn't behave traumatically.  20 years later and we have been friends all this time.  So maybe teens and college kids are traumatized worse than young kids but I doubt it.  Mine certainly weren't.  [/quote]
What do you believe the chances are that your son will stay married?[/quote]

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