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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This situation also highlights some of the ADVANTAGES that "power couples" have.  Two focused parents, two high-end earners, and two strong social networks provides exponential value to the family.  Been around a lot of women who earn north of 500K even after stepping back from their careers for a few years when their kids were young.  Their husbands all make more.  Its the optimal way to proceed and I can see why younger women are pursuing that path - I did and there are too many examples around to miss the value.  [/quote]

Whether it's optimal or not - the point is, you would rather be unmarried if you can't have a man who makes north of 500k? Because that is what the article is saying.[/quote]

No.  I would rather be unmarried than be married to someone who does not earn the same range as I do.  I make $300.  If, as the woman, I can be expected to be the default parent/primary caregiver and manage the household, then my partner needs to bring something to the table.  He can't make $100 and say that's his contribution.  I want equitable.[/quote]

Why do  you think that you would be the primary hh manager/parent? Are you specifically looking for that sort of arrangement?

The women who I know who have husbands who do their 50% of hh/childcare work prioritized that when they were dating (and yes, over money). In other words, they chose someone with whom they had a compatible vision of family life. Sometimes, it meant two high earners who stepped back once the kids came. Other times, it meant choosing a husband with a profession that already had good work/life balance. Regardless, it meant choosing a man who wanted to do his 50% at home because that's what being a good husband/father meant to him.

Quite frankly, the only women who I know who ended up as default hh manager/parent prioritized money when dating. Oftentimes, their husbands were high earning workaholics who made a lot money and/or had a prestigious job. Despite wanting children, their husbands did not want to step back professionally in order to be full partners at home.

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