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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Former latch key kid and current longtime SAHM...

I think it's important for young women to know that they can support themselves and live independently.  The best way to accomplish that is by doing it.

So, I would hope that my daughter would spend some years working, paying her own bills and being self sufficient BEFORE she got married and/or joined finances with her SO and certainly well before she had children.[/quote]

+ 1

I also think it is important to be financially secure at all times. Financial management is key. I do not care if your money came from earning, inheritance or lottery - as a woman, is it in your name, can you access it, an you invest and grow it. That is key.[/quote]

Agree. I think this is an interesting lesson that if you get a good education, lay a foundation with a career, and take time out......you CAN go back again. But. But....you can't expect to find a flexible, satisfying, stimulating job. You go back to the grind. I sympathize with OP, but what did you expect after so many years out?  You really do have to earn flex sometimes and job satisfaction. The further I go in my career, the more delegating I can do of the grunt work and the grind. And the more I work from home, and refuse to take jobs with a long commute. You can't really expect to come back into that.

I'm all for women staying home when it makes sense, and I'm all for women getting back in after years off. But there are some trade offs, just like there are for working moms. [/quote]

Remember OPs job requirements:

[quote]
1) Socially relevant work, volunteerism, hobby that brings value to my community and fulfills a need, 
2) the work has to interest me, taps into my passions, makes use of my education and ability to organize 
2) the work should be part time and flex time, tasks should be more from a weekly perspective instead of daily perspective, 
3) Occasional travel and commute is a-ok, however, most work needs to be done remotely 
4) Needs a social component where I am meeting people, at least some of the time 
5) If I am paid for my time - I am ok with that. 
[/quote]

This description is nothing like a regular job. She doesn’t want to grind. I think she already left and has settled on just volunteering and embracing early retirement (she mentioned she wanted to poll other early retirees to see how they stay relevant). She sounds maybe a little depressed, like with her kids not needing her and DH at work so much, it’s kind of a let down (many people run into this when they retire). [/quote]

I know many people that have jobs like that. They have rich husbands and they volunteer at church [/quote]

If they aren’t paid is it considered a job?[/quote]

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