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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I meant they need to take control back [/quote]

I thought this too before I had kids, but now I think it’s more nuanced.  It is WAY more work to talk through things with kids.  Many in my parents generation resorted to spanking or beating instead, or the old ‘because I said so.’  But the research shows that long term effects of that aren’t great (despite many of us feeling like maybe it helped ‘build character’ or ‘prevents spoiling.’

Parenting has become more refined just like every other human pursuit, hopefully in an effort to produce better, more well adjusted adults.

Historically child care was done by women or servants whose time was not necessarily valued or tracked very closely.  I suspect, as our society has become more egalitarian this under-appreciated work is just more visible and quantified (aka “daycare costs how much??!!”)

In fact I hope we can continue to move away from the ‘children seen but not heard mentality’ and move more towards a society that acknowledges and respects the amount of work that goes into properly raising kids.  Things like reasonable parental leave and paying teachers well.  We all benefit from having well adjusted kids become our fellow citizens. [/quote]

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