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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it telling that the STA booster parent neglected to mention the culture of sexism and misogyny endemic to the school for so many years. I know the new head is trying to change this, but it's a tall order. A simple search on DCUM will reveal past posts about this, including the yearbook scandal five or so years ago. It's far from the paradigm some of these parents claim it is.[/quote]

Only someone who knows nothing about the school would describe an incident that involved a few boys as a “culture” and as “endemic.” Other students informed, resulting in the yearbooks being pulled. Who do you think was angriest about the incident?  The other STA boys who didn’t appreciate being tainted by the few idiots who thought misogyny was funny.

No matter how great a school is, it can’t counter parental influence or lack thereof. There are badly behaved kids in every school. It’s just not news when the kids are at public schools.  [/quote]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/local/wp/2014/12/22/two-private-schools-review-accounts-of-unwanted-sexual-advances/?utm_term=.799dc575caec

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/sexist-slurs-and-coded-insults-st-albans-school-2015-yearbook-stirred-outrage/2018/10/03/39c788d0-c4ab-11e8-b1ed-1d2d65b86d0c_story.html

https://wamu.org/story/18/10/05/kavanaugh-allegations-prompt-some-prep-schools-to-examine-their-culture/#.XMW78GgpC2c

Also, if the school had recalled the yearbooks in question, why are there so many still in existence? As I understand it, the senior class had already received the yearbook before the school realized what happened and that many of the seniors kept it.
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Your posts do nothing but reiterate the muckraking of cheap journalism.

Sexuality and sexual mores in our culture are so effed up. When I heard of the NCS girls writing up notes of purported unwanted sexual advances and sharing it as a Google doc, I found that appalling. The STA boys were being accused without the ability to defend themselves or even know which of their actions led to their being on the list.

Adolescents of both genders misread cues. Girls hound boys they have crushes on. Boys assume a mutual attraction that may not be there.  Punishing these behaviors by putting them on a Google sheet is not the way to go.

If boys are making unwanted advances, they need to be confronted and told so — by the girls.  If they aren’t listening, they need to be reported to parents and school administrators.

What I see happening is a generation of girls who are not being challenged to take responsibility for communicating or  their own agency. The Babe article about Aziz Ansari pretty much captures the trend. I’ve aggressively pursued you and I’m on a date with you, but you must read my mind about what I like and don’t like. If you get it wrong, I will humiliate you publicly and try to destroy your career.

The fact that the girls made up a Google sheet and put things there doesn’t mean that they were factually correct.

If my son had been put on a list like that, and it came to my attention I would certainly want it investigated. If he had engaged in bad behavior,  I would hold him accountable. If the girl who wrote it was telling a falsehood or grossly exaggeration what happened, I would want her to be held accountable as well.

When accusations are allowed to take on the status of fact without investigation or defense, that’s called mob justice.

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