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[quote=Anonymous]I feel for OP, but also don't think she handled the situation very well.

I have an 11 year old, and would trust one 11 year old completely, two 11 year olds with most things, but group mentality takes over and things get out of hand quickly with groups of three or more.  When having groups of kids at my home, my responsibility and level of supervision definitely increases.

I don't think OP needed to supervise closely, as in the same room, but I am concerned that she was "on the other side of the house" and couldn't hear kids running through the house to get to the office area.  I'd expect the lead up to the destruction she described to be quite loud.   Given the fact the boys started off with some conflict over the number of controllers, I definitely would have checked in again after a few minutes (casually walking by w/laundry or something) to ensure the issue was solved before going to the other side of the house.

Also, not that it excuses the behavior or the lack of apology/remorse, I wonder if OP explicitly stated the office was off limits on this occasion (or even to this particular group of kids).

My DC knows there are certain places off limits when friends are over, for example, the small in home gym that I don't want to be responsible for monitoring, I make it a point of double checking that the door is closed (not locked) and reminding the kids that they are not to use the gym.

However, even given that I feel OP could have done many things differently to avoid the situation and how it was handled, the twins were definitely out of line and should have shown some remorse, apologized and offered to help clean up if not pay for some of the damage.  [/quote]

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