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this particular 60 year old very much wants approval - i.e. he wants a "big happy family". which further proves that he is a total idiot. big happy family is not happening, grandpa.

there is nothing immature about having expectations from parents and children as both grow old. yes everyone can do as they please but if they want a good relationship they will make choices with that in mind. if you want a "big happy family" that includes your numerous older children and grandchildren then don't have a baby at 60. simple!

my parents wiped my butt - so what? their parents wiped theirs and i do the same. if my parents squandered all their money gambling for example, it would be a stupid thing to do and you bet i would judge them for it. they would and did judge me for my own choices as well - choices i made after i left home. so what? it's what family is for.[/quote]

That's probably his mistake.

Big happy family could have happened if older children were raised with the right type of respect for their parents. They should be grateful dad didn't remarry when they were teenagers and focused on them when they were children.  If he remarried at a younger age more suitable for childrearing, that would have screwed them up much more.  What is better, a new baby and a stepmother when you are 14?  Or freaking 29 with better things to do? Oh I get it, he should just wear a hairshirt for the rest of his life.

Everyone in this family will benefit from distance and space, for the parent to get over their disappointment and for the adult children to learn some gratitude. [/quote]

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