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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a dad, I simply refuse to believe there are dads out there (in the DC area) that don't do the practices, games, PTCs,  field trips, camping trips etc.

I can't recall more than maybe one or two absent dads that weren't deployed. And I have 3 kids that are 14,13, and 9. What's that? Thirty six years of parenting.

This is as false narrative being pushed by angry women.[/quote]

So my DH is at a lot of the events but I'm the one who researched the activities, signed kid up, figured out how we'd get him to practices, made sure he had clean clothes for practice packed when we left that morning, that his uniform is ready for games, was on top of when practice was rained out and how we would get him home those days, when games were and that we were at the field on time, when we were supposed to bring the snacks and that we bought food for it and it was packed to go etc

So no, while my husband is spending the same 70minutes standing on the side of the field as I am, he does not get the same credit for for doing the last tiny bit of the effort involved - especially when its the fun part where we are basically socializing with friends - when I did all the work to make it happen x every aspect of our lives

Yes we both work full time[/quote]

Exactly. 
Dads don't do any managing of the family schedule, they just do tasks. Likely the wife has to even tell him what tasks to do. So all the mental load is on the mother who works 40-50 hours a week at her career and none of it is on the Father. He just looks at the calendar Mom made, Mom signed up for on time, Mom researched, Mom made the carpool for, etc. and feels "involved"

Look at it this way: If someone was seriously incapacitated for a month or two, would the house of cards fall down?

What's easier to replace? The CEO/COO of the family or the task rabbit?[/quote]

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