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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The response are unbelievable. You have moms here suggesting their kids get humiliated in front of their peers because they are angry their husband may or may not have done 50% of the work associated with child rearing.

How many of you out earn your husbands?

Yeah, exactly what I thought. I suppose the $45,000 youre not making doesn't count, huh?[/quote]

I think you are very much over exaggerating the impacts on a kid of something going slightly wrong in their life. No one is suggesting kids be humiliated in front of their peers. We are suggesting that kids be empowered to advocate for their wishes and needs. To experience consequences if they drop the ball. To not rely exclusively on mom and dad to remember everything and do everything. To not create an environment where everything the kid experiences is quietly taken care of behind the scenes. To show them that running a household happily takes work, give and take, occasional sacrifice and optimally, a partnership between their parents. And in a single parent household, to show them that their parent is working hard and they should try to pick up the slack when they can as a member of the household.

That isn't letting my kid be angry because I'm mad at my husband. That is trusting my husband to take care of a task and letting him take responsibility if he dropped the ball. Because he's a grown up. And letting my kid take responsibility for the things on their plate they need our help with.

I earn almost exactly what my DH makes, about 120k.

Kids do not need perfect obstacle free lives. And they should not grow up believing that everything magically happens for them. [/quote]

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