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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When the step-dad married OP’s mom, OP became part of his nuclear family...or should have. [b]One does discriminate between siblings in a nuclear family. [/b]

Now the step-dad may not “get” this, but OP’s mom is a jerk for letting this go on.

OP, you are being unfairly treated. My guess is that you don’t care about the gifts so much as the obvious favoritism. You have a legitimate grievance. Since your mom has let this go on so long, I seriously doubt anything will change at this point. But I certainly would sit your mom down and tell her how you have felt all these years. She is not a considerate parent and should be called out for it.[/quote]

I know you mean does NOT, but OP and the steps are not siblings. Not even a little bit. [/quote]

+1! I don't know why OP is so upset. Like I said, even if stepdad wasn't married to her mom, her stepsisters would still be lavished with stuff and trips so why is this so upsetting to her?[/quote]
Because the mom is so excited and happy about it. [/quote]

What is wrong with that? So the mom is supposed to begrudge her stepdaughters when it's their dad's money??? [/quote]

Ok, I'll bite. My guess is that you're being deliberately obtuse and contorting the story to fit your narrative, but in case you're not, the OP clearly stated that she doesn't begrudge the gifts but instead wishes she didn't know about them. She's not trying to make a grab for anything - she just wants her mom not to wave the transfer of affection (which the gifts and family trips represent) in her face.

I don't blame her. OP lost her dad, and if I were in her shoes I'd feel like I'd lost the mom I had once known too. THAT is why she is hurt.[/quote]

Hello, did you read the OP's post in which she stated "It wouldn't hurt him financially to treat me the same"? What does that tell you? OP wouldn't mind if she also got the Broadway tix and Macbooks. You're the one who is failing to acknowledge OP's true intentions. Does that make her a bad person? No. But she's being unrealistic. That man did not raise her nor adopt her, so why is she expecting to get the financial perks of being his offspring when she isn't? He married her mom and that is all. [/quote]

OP's point in that post was that it would not hurt her stepfather to make it more equal. Therefore it is a very intentional choice to continue the disparity. And it makes her mom's refusal to advocate for her sting more. I read that as, 'it is not as if SF has to pinch pennies to give them the macbooks therefore making the extremely different and emotionally vacant choice of a 75 dollar gift card all the more insulting.'[/quote]

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