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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whether it is ok or not, it is done ALL THE TIME from 6th grade on for girls and boys.  I have 4 kids, my youngest is in 6th grade.  5th grade seems to be the year this practice starts pretty consistently and it is always after a venue celebration.  So the kids go to a trampoline park, play for a couple of hours, have cake and pizza and always a small group is invited to a sleepover (usually 6 or less).  My kids are completely fine with this by the way.  They had a blast at the party and they understand that they are closer to some kids than others. So they get invited to some sleepovers and don't make the list for others.  It doesn't affect them at all.  The only instances when this was an issue that I an remember is when a friend of my daughter didn't invite one of her closest friends because of some tween drama.  The girl was really upset.  My oldest daughter one time hoped to be invited to a sleepover for a girl she really liked but it was a very new friendship and she was invited to the party, but not the sleepover.  I told her friendships need time to grow and that the other girl most likely had a cap for her sleepover and had cousins and older friends who she wanted to invite.  My daughter understood perfectly well.  The friendship did grow, they are inseparable now.  As they grow into adults, it is a good example to show them that they are not going to be invited to everything and that it is ok.  BTW, we have only done this once when my daughter had a huge pool party with 30 of her friends and she invited her 4 best friends to a sleepover.  [/quote]

You are dense. You just admitted that in fact this situation has hurt your kids after claiming it never did.

And can you really not understand that you are so mean to your kids about this situation that if they felt bad they know they can't even express that to you bc you will just stick up for the other kid over them?

And just because you don't feel bad about these situations doesn't mean that other people can't and wont. Do you really think that other kids don't have their own feelings ?

I know you think you come off sounding very smart and savvy but In fact you come off as not very bright. IRL be careful about saying this kind of nonsense because it paints a very poor picture of you and people you know just end up thinking you are dimwitted.[/quote]

You're preaching kindness and are calling the pp dense/dimwitted?  I would voice my opinion IRL, which is it's ok for kids to be taught that not everyone is as close where friendships are concerned.  Also, I tend to be friends with people who can hear different opinions and respectfully agree to disagree.  They tend to be emotionally well enough to not label someone a dimwit just because they don't agree with the person's position on an issue.  It sounds like you are the one trying to come across smart and savvy by insulting the pp.[/quote]

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