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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]10 girls in the class. My daughter was one of three not invited. Four additional girls from other classes were invited. 
The mom and I are friendly. My daughter of course heard about it at school and her feelings were hurt. I think it was rude to leave out just three. What do you think? [/quote]

You can't have a sleepover with 14 children.  Unfortunately sometimes your child is the one left out and sometimes your child is the one have to leave others out.  What would I do?  Use it as a teaching tool to explain that it doesn't speak about how this child doesn't like your child.  Apparently you don't get that message, though.   [/quote]

They invited 11 girls, at that point 3 more is no big deal.  Yes, you can have that many and we have a 1000sq foot house.  We could make it work, so if you cannot make it work in a house 2-5 times as big, something is wrong.[/quote]

You helicopter mommies get more upset than the kids. This is a teaching moment about how life works. To have her still know this girl is still a friend and sometimes they can only choose so many.

But in the parents eyes this is backstabbing, mean girl behavior. The OP even mentions "but the mom and I are friends."  [b]and she also has figured out by sleuthing no less[/b], who was and was not invited and exact numbers of each class. [b]This is borderline psychotic a[/b]nd you are enabling your kids to play the victim. To show them this is so upsetting, so unfair, if THIS is actually so upsetting to both of you now at age 8 - you are in for a long emotional battle with your child thru the tween and teen years.  The comments of getting the other 2-3 girls "left out" and forming their own sleepover is disturbing. Is this how you want your child to react every time something happens that she may not like?

Parents need to put their big girl panties on. Start acting like a mom and help her see this from the birthday girls position. Remember when we could only invite this many and you were torn? This is how she probably felt. Maybe you arent as close anymore and that is okay. One time, I was best friends with Ann and between 2-3rd we kinda had different friends. But we were still friendly with each other and by 4th we were hanging out again. Not best friends but close. Kids change, friends change, life changes. Just be nice to everyone. Think the best of them and the best of yourself. Then you move on because it is not that big of a deal. Tell her she can have 1 girl over for the night and we will do xyz. It will be fun. The end.

[b]But you moms. You live vicariously thru your kids. You smother, try to fix, rant excuses, and more.  And you raise emotionally unstable entitled kids. It is very scary[/b]. [/quote]

Whoa there, bud.  Why are you ranting over this?  [/quote]

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