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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]b[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU DEMAND TO SLEEP IN THE BED YOUR ADULT CHILD AND HER SPOUSE SLEEP IN WHEN THERE IS A FINE, EMPTY GUEST ROOM DOWN THE HALL?

How did this even become an option?  I'd rather buy a new mattress for guest bed or whatever the "issue" is. stop this now. [/quote]

BECAUSE AS THE OP MENTIONED THE MASTER BEDROOM HAS AN ATTACHED BATH, A BIG TV AND IS QUIETER AND MORE COMFORTABLE.  (Did the all CAPS help me get my point across?)[/quote]

THE GUEST ROOM ALSO HAS AN ATTACHED BATH. And who is seriously trashy enough to demand to sleep in someone else's marital bed (!) just because they can't survive a night on a comfortable queen bed without being able to watch TV in bed? AND THEY ARE THERE TO WATCH THE KIDS, so yeah they should be closer to the kids. [/quote]'
OP and spouse are in the master bedroom daily so presumably if it's good enough for the OP to keep an eye on her kids on a daily basis, it's good enough for Grandma and Grandpa for a week.  OP said that the master's attached bath is "better" than the guest room bath whatever that means.[/quote]

Of course it's good enough to keep an eye on the kids. The point is that if you're at someone's house under the guise of minding their kids, you can't very well complain that you need to spend more time with the kids. It's like staying at someone's house for pet sitting but then not wanting the pets to be close to you while you're watching TV or sleeping.

And nobody is doubting that the master is better. People are saying that the guest bedroom with queen bed and attached bath should be good enough.

Do you seriously go into someone's home, even if yes you're technically doing them a favor, and then refuse to drink the wine and liquor that they made available to you and invited you to drink and instead demand the very best thing in their wine cellar? Just because they drink it sometimes so you should be afforded the same luxury?

:roll: Some people are totally clueless.[/quote]

But OP's inlaws are asking for something costless--using a bedroom that no one is using because OP will be on vacation with her spouse-not drinking up all her wine.    OP may feel put out by sharing her space, but  her in-laws are doing her a huge favor  in caring for her kids.
OP's inlaws are doing her a big favor so presumably [/quote]

Some people care about their privacy, having everything just how they left it, not needing to pack up their bedroom to leave for a couple of nights, knowing (or at least feeling) like people haven't "accidentally" discovered things that you didn't want them to see, etc, a lot more than a couple hundred bucks for a bottle of wine. Several people on this thread have commented that if the guest suite wasn't good enough for the inlaws then they'd rather just have paid someone else to mind the kids and stay in the nice guest suite. Personally, I'd be the same.[/quote]

It would not be costless for me. It would cost me my peace of mind, and my privacy.

If my in-laws had concerns about the comfort of the guestroom, I would figure out what the room needed to be more comfortable, and address that before they arrived. [/quote]

If someone sleeping in your bed for a few nights while you’re away costs you your peace of mind, you have bigger problems (that require psychological support.)[/quote]

My bed is my intimate space, as is the area around it.  I am a very private person and my private space is important to me.

Like OP, we have a comfortable guest room.  Ours has a super-comfortable king-size bed, nice furniture, plush bedding, a large, modern TV, and plenty of other amenities including an empty dresser for clothing and plenty of hanging space in the closet.

[b]OP has a guest room[/b] that exists for the purpose of hosting guests.

If her ILs think the master bedroom is "more comfortable," then they need to articulate what comforts are important to them so that OP and her DH can increase the comfort level of the guest room.  Is it the bed, the bedding, the TV?  What is it?

Or is it that they want to exert their perceived seniority and control?

The fact of the ILs finding the master bedroom is not sufficient cause to entitle them to take over OP's private space.[/quote]

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