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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just an observation, for those that think this problem does not exist...

I own a tutoring business. Out of thousands of new clients who have initially contacted me throughout the years, I can count on one hand how many of those were dads.

These moms I deal with are doctors and lawyers, scientists and journalists- very well-educated, busy women. Dads on the whole just don't pick up the slack. They don't manage the kid stuff- they only show up if they're told to. UGH.[/quote]

Yes, and I happily deal with my kids tutoring, I have one in math tutoring.  I dont bean count the basic tasks in life we have to do. My DH does many things I never touch that makes the house run happy and smooth.

Furthermore getting your kid tutoring is not mentally exhausting.  My kid goes to the exact same math center 2xs a week. No scheduling needed. Whomever is free drops the kid off and picks the kid up.

Again, how are basic life tasks hard for you people? And if simple life is hard, just use your big girl words and assign them out.[/quote]

You’re missing the point, PP. Why is this a MOM job? If dads were truly on the whole equally participating in raising kids, I’d have a lot more calls and emails from dads. Sure, there’s some anecdotal evidence that not ALL dads are like this, and of course, I’m not expecting every mom in every family to hand off this task to their partners, but jeebus. As it stands from here, 99% of dads don’t manage this task. We’ve gotta examine this situation and what it says about the gender roles we expect and accept.[/quote]

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