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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the adoptive mother of a beautiful DD, I have been reading this thread with horror.  DD is korean so she knows she is adopted, but I don’t know what I’ll say if she wants to contact her family in 15 years. I normally would have been supportive, but I just don’t know anymore.[/quote]

I'm a Korean adoptee.  I have found my birth family (it's a happy reunion).  Much has changed in recent years - certainly adoptees within your daughter's generation have access to much more info than adoptees of mine (the first wave of international adoptions in Korea).  I've heard that some birth moms choose for their child to be adopted internationally because they know there's a higher chance of their kid being able to find them than if they stay in Korea, where adoption is stigmatized and adoptees are treated as second-class citizens.

I do have friends whose birth family chooses to not respond to their inquiries.  Obviously it's a possibility for all adoptees and I do strongly believe that one should get counseling all during the search and reunion journey.[/quote]

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