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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow so many harsh responses in this thread!  Adult adoptee here, both birth parents deceased.  Found that out via ancestry.com DNA test like OP.  I did not contact any people that came up as close relatives and open the secret.   1/2 sibling contacted me first, she broke the news to the rest of them.  I am significantly younger, they all suspected the father was cheating with a coworker.  I am taking their lead, some want contact, others don't.  Live far away, I am looking for nothing from them and which is probably why this is all progressing smoothly.

Prior to this I had read many articles regarding right to original birth certificate being a basic human right.  I happen to agree with this.  No one should be able to tell someone they can't have a document that is their own.

Thankful I don't come from a crazy bunch like the PP who sounds like she has some bad genes.  That adoptee should run and run far.
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I did it exactly as you did. Yes, it is my right to know...and I believe it is the family's right to know, sorry, but I do. No, it isn't my right to request a relationship and dog them.I doubt most adoptees want to do that when they face resistance. What would that get? So the bio parents- do they have rights? No, we aren't dirty little secrets that they can hide, and it is not just one story. Social mores dictated what would happen, mothers had little to say about what they wanted. Until the 1980s, it was basically child trafficking.Stop imagining Disney stories of how children were "chosen."

So, I am not expecting anyone to embrace me, accept me as a sibling, or a  child, but sorry,  the fact that I exist takes precedence over the family lie.

Also, for you detractors who think you own the right to your family lore- one day that person your son or daughter, or sister or brother , or YOU that you are sleeping with, marrying, or whatever may actually be a half sibling or a cousin. Yep. Wrap your head around that. [/quote]

planned parenthood should recruit you (and other ungrateful adoptees like you) for their commercials. they would raise billions.[/quote]

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