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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, your MIL always hosts a Thanksgiving at her house and you choose to go every other year.  And you and your DH decided that the year that you normally visit her that you will host, you will invite everyone months in advance so they come to you instead of MIL and you knew that she would not be able to come because she hosts her friends.

Honestly, OP, you look bad in this.  You are not only not going to your MIL on her year, you are stealing her guests.  Your husband should have spoken to her before you invited other people. Inviting her friends to drive 2.5 hours away is not the same.  [/quote]

Wouldn't it be awful if that is what happened? And yet it isn't.
1) OP didn't do this unilaterally. Husband agreed and was the actual one to communicate via the phone call to MIL.
2) After the phone call to MIL, OP and her husband emailed the other guests. 
3) It is clear that MIL is invited. It is clear that MIL's friends are invited. It's a reasonable daytrip, or I'm sure anyone is welcome to either stay overnight or get a hotel. OP made a point to say dinner could be early so travelers could get home on the early side.
4) MIL can absolutely choose to be with her family, and graciously allow someone else to host, or can stay home. The friends can decide to decline or accept. No one is being held at gunpoint.

Stealing guests? LOL. After 7 years with others experessing enthusiasm for mixing it up and sharing hosting duties, and ample notification time, grown adults can go where they want. MIL needs to understand that she can't rule holidays with an iron fist anymore. Nobody wants that.[/quote]

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