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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your husband is an attorney, some realities to consider:

[b]-- Washington has droves of struggling private practitioners, many of whom needed to scrape practices together after not making it at a big firm.  Ivy league pedigree is no guarantee of success.  Your DH is probably doing better than many of these people.  
-- The real earning power of being a government lawyer is in retirement benefits.  If you doubt this have DH ask his agency for a benefits statement that shows pension & health care benefits if he quits once retirement eligible.  
-- US Government offices which advertise an attorney job can get 500+ applications, including from big firm associates and partners.  Ask yourself why this is the case.    
-- Private sector salaries are affected by things called "downturns."  These "downturns" can cause things called "layoffs."  Even if DH gets a big private practice salary, the smart play will be to save the difference for a rainy day.  [/b]

Not saying that a government career is an excuse for DH to sit on his laurels.  Is he seeking development and outside learning opportunities that can lead to advancement in his agency?   A previous commenter suggested that the real issue may be attitude and that could be insightful.  I don't think it's your place to nag DH into private practice, but I do think it's reasonable for you to expect that he'll do what he can to advance himself in the career path he has.  [/quote]

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OP, you sound very naive to put money first. [/quote]

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