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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posts like OP's are so immature and seem so devoid of wisdom I wonder if the person writing them is actually an adult.  Is this all some of you do all day, compare your life to that of your rich acquaintances?  Is that really what life has taught you?  Can't you at least learn to control your thoughts?

And further, these posts are always about money and talking about this mid-point of someone's life, not the result.  No one on DCUM is jealous of their friend who was a doctor for 30 years and made a breakthrough in a disease, or their friend who raised 2 great kids who became awesome adults.  You know why?  Because by the time people reach that age, I'm thinking they are mature enough not to care about this shit anymore.

Also, this is America.  [b]If you want a luxury SUV, go ahead and lease one.  It really won't make your life one iota better but at least you'll get it out of your system.[/b][/quote]

Bitter yentas cling to the niece's choice of any new luxury SUV (so tacky!!! :roll: ) while ignoring the custom mansion, vacation homes, liquid assets, best private schools, being top of the economic food chain wherever they're at, never having to worry about retirement, on and on. Before age 30. A communications major who never crammed for a tough exam. Who can do yoga and pilates all day while we sit in offices all day getting fat asses. All because she had the sense in college to reel in a rich boy from flyover country.[/quote]

I agree. I don’t think it’s shallow or silly to be jealous of her.

I for one am not jealous because of the ugly expensive car or mansion.

I’m jealous of her early smarts and realizing the importance of finding a guy who can provide.

I’m jealous that she’ll never have to worry about money.

I’m jealous that she will have comfort and security her whole life.

Her children will have access to the best of the best.

She will not have to work her butt off and be upset trying to please bosses.

She can focus on herself and her family.

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Again, are you an actual adult?  If the one and only objective in your life is to have the "best," in material goods and status and working little, then yes, marrying rich is a brilliant move.

But maybe there are plenty of happy, secure people who don't actually desire this.

I think there is a fallacy on this board that money = security for the rest of your life.  That's not true.  Money gives you the illusion of security, which for many people, is enough.  But money cannot protect you from everything, including depression or unhappiness.  Nor will money secure your children for the rest of their lives.  Even with huge sums of money you can still lose that money, get sick, die, get divorced, raise screwed up kids, raise kids who lose all that money you wanted so much.  It happens and it has happened to people who are smarter and nicer and more attractive than you or me.  You might say "oh, but money makes all of those worst-case scenarios less likely," or "I'd rather have a problem WITH money than without it."  Ok, sure, but wouldn't you rather just not have problems?

I make an average income, but I don't have a shit-ton of problems in my life.  I definitely have problems, but they're problems I can handle.  And you know what?  That's enough.  I don't need a luxury yacht, or trips to Europe, or fancy schools for my kids.

[b]You know what money can't buy?  Time.  You have a finite time on this Earth, and you are wasting it on stupid shit like fantasizing about your rich friend and how she has it better than you. 
 I'm going to enjoy what I have instead of wasting my time.[/b][/quote]

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Rich men do NOT want shallow women (can't hide shallow, no matter how hard you try).  You didn't/would not have wanted him when he was poor and living in a tiny condo?  He knows who looked at him back then (when he was poor and struggling), and who did not, he is not stupid. So, he won't want you when he is rich and living in a big house.  Not too hard to understand.  You can act all friendly and fake nice when you see him, but he laughs behind your back (at parties, the guy turns to his wife and says: "I see how she (that woman) looks at you (the wife) - she hates you, she sneers at you, and she thinks I am interested in her - what an ugly hag!"). Besides, your husband doesn't want you, what makes you think another man would?

I have a friend that describes this to me, and I have actually seen it in action at parties (my friend is the cute, bubbly type - but she also has more brains than most), so I think there is some truth to it.  OP, he sees something in his wife that you just don't have, and never will.  Get over it, and start enjoying the life you have (without someone else's husband).  If your husband doesn't like you, find one that it is not taken.  Better yet, figure out why you are such a miserable shrew to live with. Anyone worth having does not want that, for sure.  I can see my friend's point, some women are just so obvious, and men really are not that stupid.  If you think they are, then I can't help you.
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