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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you mistakenly reply to the wrong post.  Yours doesn't make any sense.

[quote]You seem to have some kind of particular resentment against attractive women. What's that all about?[/quote]
My post never mentioned attractive women at all.  I certainly do not resent them, and I consider my wife quite attractive.  Are you confused?

[quote]Also the WHOLE POINT is that MEN generally DO NOT get harassed or bugged the same way women do. This is an area where 95% of the perpetrators are men. But you REFUSE to see that women in fact are communicating directly (and you just don't see it because you have no social skills/feel entitled); or women have very good reasons not to communicate directly (they're worried about a hostile reaction, or their jobs); or you're just being rude and feel like you're entitled to do it. [/quote]
Again, this has nothing to do with my post.  I think many women - including apparently you - do not communicate clearly.  You shift the blame for your poor communication over to men, by saying the men "have no social skills" to properly intuit your unspoken desires.  [b]When you refuse to communicate, you are part of the problem.
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[quote]Basically my friend, you have a new set of manners to learn. I'm sorry it bugs you so much.[/quote]
We have to disagree here.  If you'd like to give a coherent explanation for how striking up a conversation at a coffeeshop or complimenting a co-worker's haircut is bad manners, I'm happy to read it.  But until then, you have not convinced me to change my behavior.[/quote]

When you refuse to listen, you're a bigger part of the problem.  Women ARE communicating.  If you had the social skills and manners to grasp that, you would know.  Not all communication is verbal.  When a woman many years your junior gives a pained wincing smile when you tell her (every single morning) "Nice skirt, Jocelyn!"  she's telling you you're bugging her.  When a woman barely glances up and says hi and looks back at her book in a cafe, she's telling you she doesn't want to talk.  It's BAD MANNERS to force yourself on someone in a situation where you should understand they don't want to talk to you; and it's rude for you to force someone in essence to be rude to you to terminate an interaction, when you should have figured it out yourself.  [/quote]

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