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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dude, she said yes on the second try, by the third you were just rescheduling - so that's different than a guy repeatedly asking someone out who doesn't commit.[/quote]
Yeah, but you're ignoring the PP I was responding to.  Here's what she wrote: "[i][u]The only appropriate response[/u] to the, "sounds like fun but I'm busy" form of "no" is "oh that's too bad, another time then maybe," said with a smile and a swift exit. Then [u]never raise the issue again[/u]. The ball is in her court. If she is interested, she will ask you. Give us our agency. We are not voiceless people who have to be asked and re-asked until you magically catch us on our free night and we have to say yes to you. If we're interested, we'll be in touch.[/i]"  If I'd followed her advice, I would have never called again after the first effort.

[quote=Anonymous]I think the guys who said to me on the job site yesterday were very clear: "Oh, I had a pleasure working with such pretty ladies today." ... I was NOT clear because I didn't say what I wanted to: "Uh, have you been buried under a rock? It's not cool to say that to women!"  [/quote]
[b]Surely you're smart and reasonable enough to see there's a middle ground between passively accepting that comment and telling the job site guy he's an asshole?  How about "Watch out fella, the only guy who gets to call me 'pretty' is my husband!" or "Yeah, I was just planning to tell the people back at the office how pretty you guys are too!"[/b]

[quote=Anonymous]Or, when I got into a part of the site that was physically small, "You really fit well in there." And, on.[/quote]
I don't understand what's offensive about this.  I gather you're small, and so you fit into a small part of the site.  [/quote]

So, I am smart enough to have to play a cat and mouse game with them!? I can't say FU, I must be coy. That is not my job and does nothing to encourage them to stop. You really are missing the point. Can you dis-engage a bit and read through this thread again?[/quote]

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